Essay About Parents Sacrifices

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Growing up is never easy, especially in a family where neither of my parents attended college. At the time, China's economy was rough; no one had enough money to go to college let alone keep everyone's mouth fed. Due to their lack of education, both of my parents had to work many harsh hours to provide for the family. Most of the time, I was left at home to care for my baby sister. Our family didn't have much free time to play in the park, go to the mall, or even eat dinner together. It is these memories that I look back upon that gives me motivation to get a better education. It wasn't until we immigrated to America that I could finally see hope in our future. Their commitment to see me succeed has guided me to where I am today.

My dad's parents died when he was a little boy. He grew up having to worry more about money than education. Not many people can handle that amount of stress at such a young age, but my dad never gave up. Although he never attended college, he is still a vivacious intellectual that thrives to learn more. Whenever he has time, my dad would read and despite having to work 12 hours a day, he still manages to have time to talk to me whenever he comes home. The hard work and dedication my dad puts in for his family has inspired me to work harder for my goals.

My mom was always the brains in her family. She grew up with a promising future, but everything changed when her parents lost their jobs. In order to support her family, she had to give up on her education. Even though she never had the chance to attend college, she would always say, "What I can't do, you can." My mom's sense of reasoning has instilled in me, a new way of thinking. I have inherited everything that she has taught me and will continue to use what I learned to further enhance myself as an individual.

In the end, I am the link to my parent's repressive background. I am the big brother that looks out for my little sister while my parents aren't around and hopefully one day, I will be the one that inspires others the same way my parents inspired me. The life my parents lived influenced me to embrace adversity, and confront it with open hands. They placed their trust in me to inherit their hopes and dreams. The sacrifices that my parents made for me will not be in vain, because I will be the first one in my family to attend college.

Being a parent means sacrificing your future for your kid’s future.

Parents strive to make kid’s lives better before they come in this world and continue to do that till their last breath. The sacrifices they make for their children are innumerable, I’ve tried to put some of those  sacrifices here:

 

  • Time
    After becoming parent a couple’s life is centered around their little bundle of joy. A couple transforms into a mom and dad and everything that was before ‘us’ is now ‘our baby’. Throughout their life, parents dedicate their time directly or indirectly for their kids. Even relaxing after a busy day at work seems difficult as little baby is eagerly waiting to play with the parents the whole day. The ‘Me time’ is out of the schedule forever for a parent.

 

  • Emotions
    This is one of the biggest sacrifice someone makes as a parent. Emotional Quotient(EQ) is more important than Intelligence Quotient(IQ). An emotionally stable person is happier than someone who’s not. Our parents change their lives for us, but it does hurt their emotional health. There are some people and moments in their lives which provide them emotional security. But due to parental responsibilities they can’t meet that often. All these sacrifices dissipate their emotional health.

 

  • Money
    Parents spend money to fulfill all the kid’s needs right from childhood. They provide the best education possible and sometimes go beyond their limits to give kids better opportunities. These sacrifices take a great toll on their financial planning. Also the great Indian wedding, is a big enough expense to empty their pockets. If it’s a girl then parents go to the point of taking loans in old age to marry their girl by giving dowry at times. A son is expected to share financial responsibilities of his parents when they age. But if the son doesn’t earn it is worse for parents in their old age.

 

  • Relationships
    The first relationship that gets affected with the birth of a baby are of the parents themselves. The spouse are now first mom or dad. The priority list changes and suddenly baby tops the list of all relationships. Some friends and family members drift apart from parents emotionally. Life is now defined by relations that are important to parent and not individual. At times, parent may lose a treasured relation of lifetime because of kid’s misbehavior.

 

  • Personal life
    As we discussed the ‘Me and We time’ is out of the time table for the parents. A kid demands undivided attention till s/he becomes independent. By that time the age and financial independence is over for the parents. Post retirement they do find time for themselves, but the golden days of adulthood are lost in creating a life for kids than themselves. Many parents suffer relationship issues with their partner because they spend their lives either working or caring for kids. This causes a fading emotional connect between spouses.

 

  • Freedom
    Our parents curb all their freedom of choices for us. It can be freedom to take a job their heart desires, to live in city they like, to pursue their hobbies, to spend money the way they want. But they give up all choices for us. They rather chose a job that pays well, a city that’s suitable for our future, save money for our education and future needs. It is possible that they could’ve succeeded and lived happier if they had enjoyed their freedom of choice.

 

  • Social life
    The social life of parents takes a backseat after the baby. Once the baby grows up, schooling becomes the epicenter of parents to expand their social life. Once the kid is settled in live professionally and personally, they find time to expand their social circle. As individuals the growth parents would’ve gained personally, socially and professionally would’ve been way better the other way.

 

  • Career
    Majority of the times a mother sacrifices. Biologically having a major part in child birth, she puts everything on hold, including her professional life. Naturally father has to give his career more importance to fulfill family needs. Many parents take up jobs that allow them to spend more time with kids.

 

  • Food
    Parents usually give up on their favorite foods to inculcate healthy eating in kids. Going to restaurant that everyone else but the kid likes; giving up major portion of everyone’s favorite food to the kid to relish. Some less well to do parents have to even give up a one-time meal to feed their kids.

 

  • Desires
    Starting from their wardrobe, to the house decor, to the car, all are decided to suit the kid’s comfort or later are ruled by her choices. Holiday plans are decided by kid’s education. Later parents are dependent on kids post retirement they even have to shift city to be with them. It’s very difficult, leaving the place they spend their lives and adjusting in a new setup in the old age.

Parents have unconditional love for kids. With old age parents become our kids and need love and care. Remember, a parent never retires. Maybe their words of wisdom don’t hold relevance in today’s world, but experience is the best teacher. After all sacrifices if a parent doesn’t even get love and respect, imagine the trauma they’ll suffer. The world is becoming smaller and we need to move places to grow professionally. We don’t need to drag our parents in their old age everywhere. Just genuine love and being there when they need us is more than sufficient for them to feel proud of their upbringing.

There’s one thought that I will mention, it’s very true for me, as a daughter, and now as a mother,

“The more I go through parenting, the more I owe an apology to my parents.” 

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Medha

Life is very short let’s live it the best. I am a learner forever, everyone around me teaches something that adds to my personality. And I love to share my thoughts and experiences with others, provided it interests them! Trying new things, meeting new people and traveling to new places interest me. This is reflected in my career from a Mechanical Engineer, to a Trainer, to a mother and now a budding writer!

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